Hello everyone,
I'm curious to know if there is a problem/issue with dating gay moms. Especially with younger children. When everyone reaches their late 30's and 40's, there is an excellent chance of meeting a woman being married to a man and having childeren with him. However, like I said in my profile, we come to our true selves later in life and realize we are lesbian or bisexual and need to meet people like ourselves. The problem is, no one believes we are sincere in this search for our sou  more...

Hello everyone,
I'm curious to know if there is a problem/issue with dating gay moms. Especially with younger children. When everyone reaches their late 30's and 40's, there is an excellent chance of meeting a woman being married to a man and having childeren with him. However, like I said in my profile, we come to our true selves later in life and realize we are lesbian or bisexual and need to meet people like ourselves. The problem is, no one believes we are sincere in this search for our soul mate or whatever and pass over us, thinking~~I don't want an instant family, which is ok,~~however, we like to date and get out every once in a while and...no, it doesn't mean you would meet our kids unless you'd really like to. The rule of thumb is you don't meet your GF's kid until 6 months down the road. So it's all good.
This is something to be aware of as all of us begin to reach our middle ages.
If anyone would like to share their experience or opinion on this unique twist to lesbian/bisexual dating, please talk about it. What I have to say is, it's tough going it alone.
Thanks for humoring this editorial, I do care what you have to say.

Where do you go to meet other women? and when and how did you realize you were gay after having had children with a guy?

Thanks alot for responding. I know. I keep telling them. They're 12 10 &3. The oldest two aren't as fixated as the youngest. I'm thinking maybe I should limit her visits a little more just till all of us are at a "safer distance".

Being 30 is still young but I took the door off the hinges when i was 28. I'm just beginning but I know what I want. I keep having to hear from my sisters that only a man will do it. They brush right over it like who i am and who I want is untrue. I don't know maybe  more...

Thanks alot for responding. I know. I keep telling them. They're 12 10 &3. The oldest two aren't as fixated as the youngest. I'm thinking maybe I should limit her visits a little more just till all of us are at a "safer distance".

Being 30 is still young but I took the door off the hinges when i was 28. I'm just beginning but I know what I want. I keep having to hear from my sisters that only a man will do it. They brush right over it like who i am and who I want is untrue. I don't know maybe I make them question their ownselves. But it's really annoying.

when i subscribed to this site a few days ago. yours was the first blog that i've read. It was pretty interesting, the things you have to say. You seem like a really nice person which is cool. I have a hard time meeting people; too shy. But i understand what you're talking about. I only came out 2 yrs ago and when i told my family they were a lot shocked and chalked it up to a phase. I have children. I became involved with an old friend who has been out. Her accepting my children who are young.   more...

when i subscribed to this site a few days ago. yours was the first blog that i've read. It was pretty interesting, the things you have to say. You seem like a really nice person which is cool. I have a hard time meeting people; too shy. But i understand what you're talking about. I only came out 2 yrs ago and when i told my family they were a lot shocked and chalked it up to a phase. I have children. I became involved with an old friend who has been out. Her accepting my children who are young. She was so afraid. Our relationship ended for other reasons but i think her not really knowing how to handle it also played a part. We're still friends. Now that we're not together she still comes by and visist but I can see that the pressure is off her. She seems more at ease around them. They love her to death and tell me in secret that they want us back together. I don't ever want to expose them to someone who won't be a part of their lives like that. I mean they get so excited to see her. I feel bad because it's no longer what we shared or what they hope for. Any advise for me? I could use it. Dating, relationships, introduction, and just talking.