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Posted on Fri, Nov 05, 2010 11:52

Ok I dated men all my dating life and have been married for 20yrs(getting a divorce).  I was always attracted to women but never acted on it. To be honest I figured how could it be satisfying intimately speaking. (OK I laugh at that now, cause i know from experience how wrong I was on that one..Lol).

I notice there are lots of women like me, who have led hetero lives, married, had kids and now switch teams. am divorcing because of this desire..no. I just feel free to explore it now. I wonder how my straight friend will react and if I will feel isolated? It seems like most everyone in my world is married to a man. I guess anyone that is really turned off by it was not the kind of person I'd want as a friend anyway.  Just seems odd to me to suddenly feel so aware of my sexual preference when it was never in the forfront of my mind before when meeting people or making friends.

I have joined a les/bi group in my area and once the divorce is done will branch out more to meet people. I wonder how the transition has been for those of you like me(who live a hetero lifestyle before) in terms of your social relationships.

Karyn

 



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Posted on Mon, Dec 27, 2010 05:18

Sent you a message but got no reply so posting here...perhaps you will see it.  The swtich has been mostly good, sometimes stressful as I am not completely free....still married. I enjoy my gf very much.  I notice a lot of women on this site who are not with another woman but very much want to be so I consider myself lucky. 



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Posted on Sun, Dec 26, 2010 17:48

Wow!!! you just spoke for me, word for word. I have been fortunate enough to have my first encounter. We began as friends, then i fell in love with her, then we made love. It was more emotional than sexual but Wow!!! so delicious. Anyway, can't seem to find many women in the life so i've decided to try these sites. Wishing you luck.... :)


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Posted on Wed, Dec 08, 2010 12:26

I am in a similar situation to you. I am still married. I love my husband as a friend but like you I have been attracted to women since I was very young. I did act on it with one person, an older woman, I like the way you are doing it -- getting your divorce and then feeling free to "jump" into your new life. Those friends that turn away from you when they find out were not your real friends anyway.


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Posted on Fri, Dec 03, 2010 10:50

how was your switch


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