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vipcandy911
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Posted on Sun, Apr 03, 2011 19:47

My ex and i were together for five yrs. She broke up with me a year ago and has been dating a guy for a few months now. I am still very much in love with her i think. I cant seem to get her out of my mind. It doesnt help that she still calls me and tells me she loves me and wants to continue sleeping with me. Im not too sure her boyfriend would appreciate that, so of course as much as i want to i havent given in to temptation. How am i supposed to get over her? What do i do? Any advice would be appreciated!!


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Catwoman724
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Posted on Sat, Dec 01, 2012 01:12

She apparently loves herself more than any other person.Shes a cheater,and people who cheat are selfish ,users . I know how you feel.My ex of 8 years cheated on me ,found out one day that she had adopted a child with another woman. had no idea she was dating someone else.Than after using that woman ,went on to use another ect.Now shes using a man. It hurts to be cheated on,and used. I know the hurt ,i still love her ,but hate her at the same time. I try to remind myself that i deserve better ,because im a honest woman who has never cheated on anyone .



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Posted on Thu, Nov 01, 2012 00:32

here is some food for thought -

the truth is in straight laimen terms "she is cheating on you with someonelse" meaning sexually she is with a man and spiritually she is still with you and thats flat out not how you love anyone !!!

here is more truth Sista "both you and the guy need to tell her go somewhere and find out who she really is within and on her own while living the single life...... because noone on this earth can make that happen but her.,.... infact the sooner the better because it sounds like she is trying to find out who she really is and what she really wants by way of using you both to do it and as long as you and the boyfriend are there as her puppets she will continue to take the easy route of draining both of you of all your energy inorder to feel loved and that kind of love will never be met because what she needs truly has to come from within and not from someone who loves her.

 

 



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Posted on Tue, Jul 05, 2011 20:54

it's hard but u must understand u r doing the right thing, stay strong it's hard but u must accept it  work on u. My lady and i was together for 13yrs. we just broke up a month ago and we never had a big fight for ourbeautiful 12 yrs but this year she wanted to be out, curisoty got the best of her and though its painful i know i must give her space without hassling her r giving her a hard time she to is curious a bout a guy, so i gave my blessing as hard as it was, but i love her and though i will never go back i will remain her friend. Loving me more taught me that holding someone when their not happy though your heart is filled with love u must stay strong and love u more u will one day find that love but as for me i'm seeking friends somone to laugh with  it all sound so easy but it's not it's not at all just something that must be done stay strong



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Posted on Sat, May 07, 2011 21:11

As hard as it is, you really should try and move on. You will never forget her and maybe never stop loving her, but she hasn't been fair nor loving to you...and it's now time for you to take care of you. I recently left my girlfriend of 5 years and as hard as it is some days, I have to be good to myself, something she wasn't all of the time. Try to hang in there and as cliche as it sounds, time will help, but only if you truly want a better life. She wants to have her cake and eat it too and sometimes that's just not possible. Move on and try to limit the contact right now. Maybe in a few months or even years you will be able to be friends. But don't rush either, find friendsd and find yourself again. I know it hurts and I know this is hard but you will be ok. Remember that this, too, shall pass. Love and peace to you.


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Posted on Sun, May 01, 2011 16:32

Breaking up is never easy. In professional terms it is treated as bereavement. Counselling would help you to analyse your own behaviour. As human beings we do things out of habit, and habits can be very hard to break. I speak out of experience and can only suggest that you take one day at a time. Learn to love yourself again and make new friends. Time is a healer. X

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vipcandy911
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Posted on Wed, Apr 06, 2011 21:49

I dont like to share either :) i still want to keep her around as a friend, i mean we shared 5 yrs together. Hard to just walk away from that. Oh well... Im trying to get over it all. Im a very happy outgoing person who's always making everyone else laugh, but here lately im the one that's needing someOne to make me laugh! Thanks for the replies ladies :)


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keira_02
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Posted on Mon, Apr 04, 2011 16:13

meet someone new:)


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Posted on Mon, Apr 04, 2011 04:14

Stay awayyy from her!! (my opinion that is!) I mean I def. wouldnt like to share the person I love with anyone!


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