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Posted on Mon, Mar 08, 2010 07:05

Ok so my first efforts at a blog sucked and now that i've thought about it it would be really great if some of you ladies could help me out... I joined this site because i need a distraction from a woman i'm living with...i need a distraction from her because she has a family... husband kids all the rest of it... and i look after her kids... she it 18 years older that me but everytime i look at her i get that feeling and i can't make it go away... so i really need some advice or just one of you girls out there to come along and sweep me off my feet.... Xx


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Posted on Fri, May 28, 2010 14:43

hey


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Posted on Thu, May 27, 2010 12:49

well you know all of it is hard but you just have to move on .... ive been there and done that but it happens.... i just want to get away and have some fun!


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Posted on Tue, Mar 23, 2010 04:59

Hey....Listen I am ending a relationship that my ex is 13 years older than me and I am the one with the child.....she hates the way I raise him.....its like we have known each other for so many years that its almost wrong not to talk to her but I have to....so basically I am in the same boat....she still lives here. Its hard to see her and not think of what we lost....but as they say it gets better I am just trying to figure how long that takes as well....maybe it is spreading your wings and just being friends before anything......I think I might have to live by that motto for a while. Maybe that will work......Good Luck


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Posted on Mon, Mar 15, 2010 23:01

hey... how r u now?? u off her already?? hey ive been there before.. got totally in love with diz married beautiful lady with a kid.. i know it is so hard but eventually it took me 1 year to let go and another 1 yr to forget her. diz all happened due to an accident. Lucky me! got to know a gal n eventually love sparks and blah, blah, blah.... so yup... it takes distraction n time..


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Posted on Sat, Mar 13, 2010 03:07

You know my story (falling in love with a friend who is not a lesbian nor bi!) she knew I was so madly in love with her and despite that fact she still got close (probably just as a friend since we were friends) however I read into everything she said/do too. I think we need to grow up and move on. As you wrote and know "We are not the ones making them happy right?". And if we want them to be happy then we need to be away from them... (well this is my motto)


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Posted on Fri, Mar 12, 2010 13:02

In my personal advice, find something whether hobbie/ responsability/ girlfriend to distract you from situation. I have been in same sort of situation, what helped me was gain a new hobbie/ go out for a laugh with other women, so that you are away from problem, but when your there you think about other responsabilities/ friends for example so that the problem is hopefully resolved in the mean time. Before you know it, it'll all be resolved one way ore anouther. Believe me I've been there.


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Posted on Fri, Mar 12, 2010 05:20

Quoting erdogan

wow I'cant imagine how that must feel for you.. So I'm not in the place to give an advice I guess :( But in my opinion (this is totally me, my character and all lol) if I was you; I'd try to stay away. Despite how difficult it is; seeing her happy with her family and settled is a good reason to be away from that person. This is what I did with the person I fell in love with; she was just not into women and I know that I wasnt the right thing for her. So I'd be nothing but an obstacle. If you can change that job it may help.. If not try to be distracted (hahah if that works (!)). Make a choice, be firm about it. Set yourself rules and act by it!


Staying away is the exact advice i gave myself... only the next thing i new i was on a plane flying for 22 hours to get here... so that worked well!!.. it's not so much that it'd difficult seeing her happy with her family i'm so glad she's happy... i'm just not the one making her happy... What i find hardest is the fact i read into everything!!! everything she says everything she does, she also knows i'm a lesbian so most of the time i'm thinking 'oh my god is she flirting with me?' so i drive myself crazy reading into everything and that makes it hard... so i think yeah maybe if i meet someone amazing then i will be able to put all my focus on them instead of her... i don't know... =/


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Posted on Fri, Mar 12, 2010 04:58

Quoting summer94

hey there :) Haha so you pretty much just wrote my whole life story!!! i've been struggling for years now with being in love with a women that i cant have..thats 6 years older then me but i cant seem to help myself, she gives me the most undescribable feeling ever! i've learnt that even though letting go might be hard, holding on is even harder.. if you want someone to talk to..im always here keep your head up beautiful xoxo


Gosh i'm so glad i fond this site!!! i seriously thought i was like the only one out there.... it is sooo hard... but at the same time rewarding because like i said i live with her and work for her... so it sure makes me do my job properly and be the best i can be at it because i'm forever trying to please her... i even when to he extreme of bying flowers for her.... orange roses... turnes out they are her favorite. In return she gave me flowers yesterday... letting go = impossible i would love to talk to you more... I'm not a gold member though... i am on though Belinda Williams my dp is a photo of a pair of blue and while striped welly boots. xx


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Posted on Thu, Mar 11, 2010 23:16

you can it just you need to get laid and told you are beautiful and be treated like a real women i am willing to guide u thur this to make it a good experience for you just write me back if your interested i can help u thur the hard times


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Posted on Thu, Mar 11, 2010 04:27

wow I'cant imagine how that must feel for you.. So I'm not in the place to give an advice I guess :( But in my opinion (this is totally me, my character and all lol) if I was you; I'd try to stay away. Despite how difficult it is; seeing her happy with her family and settled is a good reason to be away from that person. This is what I did with the person I fell in love with; she was just not into women and I know that I wasnt the right thing for her. So I'd be nothing but an obstacle. If you can change that job it may help.. If not try to be distracted (hahah if that works (!)). Make a choice, be firm about it. Set yourself rules and act by it!


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Posted on Thu, Mar 11, 2010 02:13

hey there :) Haha so you pretty much just wrote my whole life story!!! i've been struggling for years now with being in love with a women that i cant have..thats 6 years older then me but i cant seem to help myself, she gives me the most undescribable feeling ever! i've learnt that even though letting go might be hard, holding on is even harder.. if you want someone to talk to..im always here keep your head up beautiful xoxo


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