What are the signs? Love and Attraction in the Workplace Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Dec 03, 2009 at 04:51 PM

    I am not sure if I know how to read women! How do you know if they are flirting or interested? We women are touchy-feely, we stand close to one another...Hell, we even hold each other's hand when we talk! It is so confusing to me! I need to a freakin' CLUE!!!! ANy advice?
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  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2013 at 04:51 AM

    This was not only a great read and informative but also excellent advice.  Thanks!  This helped me out quite a bit.   This post will definitely help me to further tune up my gaydar.  I think we can all atest to the fact that there are a lot of beautiful, intelligent and attractive women out there, and as lesbians sometimes we tend to let our imaginations get the best of us, or in some cases keep us from at least taking the first step.  So having a good handle on what those non-verbal ques are is most beneficial in the hunt.
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 30, 2012 at 11:45 PM

    Some women r not comfortable in being real emotional -- being orbiting over another woman. Emotional orbiting takes you to a new level of attraction. If you r constantly thinking about her all the time n u can't seem to get yr mind off of her, then u r in-love with her.
    There is a conspiracy -- from the public--- it's really hard because some members who have the ability to pass law reject gay rights. In
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 30, 2012 at 11:31 PM

    Non verbal language overrides verbal. Does she look into your eyes for longer than a few seconds?Does her pupil dialate?is she touching herself--anywhere? What r her hands n feet doing? Does she sit with her legs wide open? Do you get wet when you r around her? If you answered yes, then she is attracted to you.

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 06, 2010 at 12:21 PM

    smile!lol! Thanks for sharing my confusion..lol!
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 06, 2010 at 12:20 PM

    Thanks for your comment
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 06, 2010 at 12:20 PM

    Thanks for your comments! WOW! You validate that it is a spiritual connection kind of thing. I will need to learn to trust my gut instinct a bit more. I am just very attracted to a beautiful feminine woman and pray that I am not reading more into it! Thank you
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 06, 2010 at 12:10 PM

    Hi Jade2u!

    Thanks bunches for your response. I do apologize for the delay. I am an educator on summer vacation...need I say more! LOL! Yes, your response is extremely helpful. What more, as I read the "signs", my brain began to involuntarily dispense the faces of the women who have displayed the aforementioned signs listed in your response. "Behavior out of the norm"really resonates with me in that I have been experiencing these episodes consistently with women. Perhaps I was just simply not 'getting' it and was confused as to why these women were behaving as such. So, yes, your comments are very helpful. I will be looking for the signs more intently now. Thanks so much!
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 04, 2010 at 10:27 AM

    If you are a lesbian and you are just coming out, you will discover that dating is a whole new experience from what you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike heterosexual dating, you or the other woman will be responsible for initiating the date. No more waiting for the guy to take the initiative! Like anything in life, this has its good and bad points.

    On the one hand, you don't have to sweat out waiting to see if he will ask you out. On the other hand, you will experience all the anxiety and fear of rejection that men have traditionally had to put up with.

    You may think you know everything there is to know about female attraction, since you are a female. Well, maybe, but in our society you have only been conditioned to interact with men on this level, not women. So determining if a woman is interested in you may be more difficult than you think.

    For one thing, men tend to be more overt. For another, if you are meeting a woman in a social context that is heterosexual (in other words, NOT in a gay bar or online dating site) you may not know if she is interested in you as a straight friend or as a lesbian love interest. Since 98% of the population is straight, guess what the odds are? Still, it does happen and you need to be able to figure it out!

    Here are some signs:

    Frequency of contact: After your initial meeting, has this woman initiated contact with you? If you have seen her more than once, does she call you often to talk? Has she asked to see you again? In general, if a woman is interested in you, she will want to contact you and see you as much as possible!

    Mood: When you do see this woman, what is her mood like? Does she smile a lot or even become giddy? Is she always extra happy to see you? Does she give you a big hug? Conversely, if you are unable to meet with her, does she seem unduly disappointed? Measure these mood reactions with those of friends you have had in the past. In other words, try to determine if her reactions seem more extreme than is typical.
    Alone or in a crowd? Does this woman prefer to see you with other friends or alone? A woman that is interested in you romantically will usually want to see you by yourself, rather than asking you to a party or on a "night out with the girls."
    Listen carefully to what she says. Does she tell you she likes you or really enjoys spending time with you? Does she express that the time goes so quickly when she is with you? If your woman friend doesn't want the time you spend together to end and has regrets saying good-bye, that's a sign! Does she offer to go with you when you have alternate plans, such as, "Oh, I have some grocery shopping to do, too. I'll come with you." What you are listening for is behavior that falls outside the norm.

    Jealousy. Although this is a negative emotion, it is also a sign that a woman is attracted to you. Does she seem to be annoyed when you have other obligations or want to spend time with another friend? Does she feel slighted by your other obligations? it is important to note here that she may be jealous of your time away from her, rather than the actual person or obligation you are attending to!

    One final word. A woman who is attracted to you may never have experienced these feelings before. She may be confused and afraid of these feelings. She may even be involved in a heterosexual relationship or married. Often times these feelings occur as a relationship progresses from acquaintance to "best friend." With most women, feelings of attraction stop at "best friend," but lesbians will continue to bond past that point into romantic love.

    I hope this helped.
  • View author's info Posted on May 21, 2010 at 12:15 AM

    Well, how's the gaydar? Sometimes it is really hard to know what is going on even when you are sure the *dar* is in shape or you know. Invite her out to dinner or some event or something and see what develops. Just hate the dance sometimes of who is going to make a move or be first to take the chance or whether my imagination is running away with me. So few can you just ask without messing up the whole thing. Doesn't fit the pursuit/romance fantasy playing or something. I have lost some my waiting too long, been accused of being a crazed amazon some other times when I didn't wait and others have somehow worked themselves out. So hey, beats the heck out of me! :)

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  • View author's info Posted on Apr 23, 2010 at 04:58 PM

    me i dont know exactlly how women attracts each other really clueless
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 17, 2009 at 07:27 PM

    I can always feel my way in... for me at least it's the eyes and the kind of eye contact... the rest is incidental. Moreover, for me it's a feeling about the other woman and let things go the natural way...

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