I've been involved with butch woman for almost a year now--she pursued me, even though I'd always been into men. In many ways, this is the most intense and deeply intimate relationship I've ever experienced, and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her. She tells me that she feels the same, yet she constantly finds reasons to be annoyed with me or to otherwise create conflict between us. We are not kids--both over 40--and I don't know whether this is typical of lesbian relationships or unique to the one I'm in. Any thoughts, observations, or advice would be greatly appreciated.