I think something is really really wrong with my gaydar...well...it is simply non existent. Actually this is starting to become pretty anoying because I keep falling for the wrong girl eeevery time. How do you guys do it??
Each relationship has gotten better with time and healing (therapy, exercise, reading, spirituality). I am fifty now and afte 28 years of relationmships, it does get easier. Please look within. Mediatate, ask yourwself the relaly tough questions, be positive and gentle with yourself, Love yourself deeply enough and forgive yourself for everything one at a time. THen you can love and forgive others. I gave up alcohol (never drank much), coffee, sugar, I am thinking about giving up eggs, not yet though. I've done a bunch of hydrotherapy and massage to heal myself of the toxins in this world, take vitamins, do acupunture and am just getting things right now in my life. Make yourself the priority for a few months or a year, indulge yourself then you can indulge someone else.
Oh tell me about it! Still havn't got it right!! Came so close recently, really thought she was the one, was willing to change my whole life for her, in fact when I think about it, I pretty much have, just forgot or decided not to notice one important issue, her 35yr marriage to a man! Silly me, will I never learn! (Scousr)
Lots of trial and error. Your gadar will get stronger in the sense that you will be more able to choose women who are attracted to women. The quality of those women will depend on your ability to pick good friends. If you have good friends, then you know what qualities you want in a partner. It's a good place to start.