I've met women who just made my toes tingle when I was around them. I've wanted to touch them, tell them how attracted I am. But I'm always so afraid they are completely straight and will be offended by my attraction to them. How do you start? How do you know if they want you too? Maybe I missed a perfect relationship because I didn't know how!
Just wanted to comment, this is sad, but true. I'm a light weight so the slightest will get me to feel more comfortable. However, thats only to flirt with people I know and just talk more openly with a group. Still haven't gotten to a point to take it out of a familar setting. Maybe one day soon.
THE FACT THAAT YOUR NOT OUT MAY BE YOUR WHOLE ISSUE. NOT SAYING JUS GO AROUND BLURTING THINGS OUT LIKE HEY IM A LESBIAN BUT MAYBE IF SHE KNEW SHE WOULD KNOW HOW TO CARRY IT WITH YOU I HOPE UR GETTIN MY DRIFT! SMILLE* ANY WAY I WAS IN THIS SAME STINK AND ONE DAY I WAS JUS LIKE EFF IT AND ASKED HER HOW YOU FEEL IF A WOMAN HAD A CRUSH ON YOU ! SHE SAID THAT IT WOULD BE EXCITING BECAUSE SHE LOVES A WOMAN TOUCH HOW FREAKIN LUCKY WAS I I HAD NO IDEA SHE WAS INTO WOMEN BUT I HAD TO HAVE HER AND I GOT HER EVEN THOUGH SHE TURNED OUT TO BE A NUTT CASE MY POINT IS YOU NEVER KNOW UNTIL U ASK! GOOD LUCK
Yeah I feel your pain, over here if I flirt and it turns out to be a straight girl I'd more often than not get in a huge mess, homophobes are a little too common around here I'm afraid. Which makes me always scared to approach and wait to be approached instead, which is rare because I'm butch and supposed to be the one doing the first step -w-'
The simple answer is...ask her...ask whatever you need to know to clear that message from your thoughts...if she is a lady and would not entertain any other thought other than simply answering your question...you'll have your answer.
Thanks, I'll start working a little more towards flirting and talking. I'm always so nervous when I feel that attraction. I have been looking for someone special for a while but I'm not out and I don't want to be out really. I like being discreet and behind closed doors. Whew! I think I may have met one recently because she is always flirting with me when I see her at work. Maybe I'll take time to flirt back ;)