getting recognized as a lesbian by your attire. Comments and Suggestions Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Mar 18, 2010 at 06:40 AM

    I have thi big problem. I don't get recognize as lesbian. I've never been approach by a girl, even in a gay club . Ieven wear rainbow on a daily basis. No success. I still attract these 40 something year old men! Can u belive that sh&t?!?I think its because I don't have the gay look as I call it. So last week I decided to get a mohawk. Well the folks at work liked it but I'm not sure how its gonna work out ina the club. I just need a few tips on how to look more "lesbian" and how to get recognized by my people. Please help.
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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 25, 2014 at 04:30 AM

    I don't think it's a specific look, more of a vibe, a lesbian will notice or catch you looking out of the corner o f their eyes, sometimes but if your not looking at anyone you find attractive in the same way those guys look at you, they will assume your either straight, or just not interested! Give it a go! It's really not about how you dress either, just how you make eye contact!

  • View author's info Posted on Nov 14, 2013 at 05:21 AM

    It's a problem.  I have a theory that there are two kinsd of lesbians: the "chick magnet" type and the "Well of Lonliness Type."  The former type could come in in full make up and the femmiest clothes imaginable and she would still find every lesbian and date half of them in a workplace in 6 months.  We are cursed to be the latter kind.  Wish I knew the answer but I have been struggling with it for 40 years now.  It has caused me and still does a lot of pain.  If you think of a solution, do let me know.  It leads to lots of unrequited longing in my experience.




  • View author's info Posted on Sep 01, 2011 at 02:11 AM

    liten maybe its just one of those things where even in a gay bar u r just to cute that people feel you afraid to approach you. Ladies try smiling when in gaye parties r just chatting to a stranger I get asked if I am gay when I go out but hey I just say I like kissing girls and they like kissing me llol lesbians roll on

  • View author's info Posted on Aug 18, 2010 at 12:17 AM

    i have exacly the same problem, no body can think im lesbian, in any where, acctualy, the boys find me so female and hot and they think im a easy girl.
    is not so sad. i hate it
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 04, 2010 at 09:16 PM

    I agree. I do not think there is a "lesbian" look. Just be yourself first.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 07, 2010 at 01:29 AM

    You look lesbian by going to a lesbian bar and approaching girls. You don't need to look like a dyke to pick up a girl! If there is a specific girl you're after, find out what she's into. If not, then wait till you find a girl who's attracted to you. You just have to make sure that you're looking in a place where a lady is ok picking up another woman. I've been looking for a girl for several months and if a girl w/ a mohawk came by I'd look the other way -- not to say some girls aren't into that though. Be you and look in the right place, and you'll find someone!
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