I'm an older lesbian and I came out in 2005. While I always thought I was gay, I did the expected thing back in those days (mid to late '70s) and got married & had kids. While I don't regret having my kids, I do look back and wish I had had the courage to come out back then. Also, no---I did not have a bad relationship with the two men I married and had my kids with; I really wanted to be with a woman but was too scared to do so.
Oh well! No use crying over spilt milk! As I mentioned, I came out in 2005 and I am finally happy since I am not hiding who I am anymore. While my two oldest kids and my mother don't accept the fact that I'm gay, my youngest child and my younger brother have no problem with it. Maybe my two oldest kids and my mom will accept this about me one day. Who knows?
As for labels, I don't believe in them which is why I say I am "just me" and I think that it's okay for you to be "just you." We are attracted to who we are attracted to & labels shouldn't matter.
Butch/femme, age, and all that other hooha.
I'm all for 2 people having the capacity to love one another without fear.
Communication and honesty what a blessing. The whole butch/femme thing reminds me of the lesbian/gay male hating that was happening in the 70's. Now 30 years later it doesn't matter, it never should have. Personally I try not to put myself in either category. I'm more comfortable in Levis and t-shirt, but when necessary will put on the makeup and wear appropriate attire. Thank God that's not very often.
Yeah, we're here. We are everywhere!! I consider any womyn who came out in the 60's-70's a Stonewall Boomer. Womyn of change. Womyn who came forward, without fear. The role models were HETRO..hello...what else did we know? I chose to not be butch or femme, but rather a unique blend of both, sistors! I can change the oil in the truck, while my chocolate cake is baking in the oven..the question is...would I?
I feel as a lesbian, that we all have one thing in common..our sexual preference. Just that. Everything else is a collaboration of 2. So there is a sort of division within our communities, one of sexual preference. Label what you want... I'm not interested in bi/tri/ts/tg/sb/sm/. I want to be with someone who hasn't been with a man in the last 30-40 years. Who knows that she loves womyn,face-2-face.
I love some of my crone sisters!!