I've only been on this site for a couple of days, but i'm starting to wonder if any checks are in place during the registration process, to weed out those pathetic male losers that need to masquerade as women - to chat with a lesbian...hmm!
Cyberworld is not safe for any female, whether they are straight, bi, lesbian or queer. I just use this site for an occasional comment, or blog.
I feel for the singletons, out there who has to look to the internett for a 'likeminded' partner. The internett is full of sharks, I think.
I believe in the scene. The old fashioned way of meeting someone, face to face. The can-I-buy-you-drink, scenario. If, they refused a drink, well, then you knew where you stood.
I met all my ex's in night clubs and bars, except for one.
Good reply Gen. Many people now have webcams too. Those who have them are usually happy to use them. I have one and if I am seriously interested in someone, I am more than happy to switch on my cam but only if we both have them.
I've heard tons of excuses from guys posing as girls as to why "their cam isn't working at the moment"!!
At that point, I suggest, as you have, using a digital cam of some sort with similar criteria as you have suggested.
If they reject that idea too, I am pretty sure they are not real.
I don't think there are any checks on that, but I don't know how there could be, practically. I think it's a fact of life we have to live with.
I suppose you could do your own check if you start chatting with someone you think you like. Since nearly everyone has some sort of access to a digital camera these days (at least in their mobile phone), you could ask your new friend to email you a photo of herself in a particular, arbitrary pose you specify -- like, holding up the first two fingers of her right hand and last three fingers of her left, or whatever.
A guy might theoretically have some women friends who would pose for him, but I would think most guys looking for lesbian love on the internet don't have a lot of close female relationships, except maybe their moms.
A voice or video message could accomplish the same.
I guess that's too much trouble, but can you think of another way? At least it's an icebreaker to talk about with your new online friends.