"I am a lesbian/bi". How do you tell your family? Family Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Feb 16, 2008 at 06:16 PM

    "I am a lesbian/bi". How do you tell your family?

    Maybe someone has asked this question or it is discussed somewhere else by thousands of people. But I still would like to know your thoughts here since we are seeking our girl on this site. We are not telling jokes or playing.

    And how will you take your girl to your family and introduce her to your family members?

    "We met online". You have to add this sentence.

    Ladies, please, give me your ideas.
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  • View author's info Posted on Mar 28, 2015 at 07:58 AM

    I do not think I will ever tell them, it would break thier hearts and I love them too much.

  • View author's info Posted on Dec 15, 2009 at 09:18 PM

    I don't know this is the first time I am admitting this. So I will not tell my family for a long time. They are Indian so I would of course hide it if I told them because I love them. I don't think that i owe it to them at this stage in my life. But if I were to get into a serious relationship then yes.
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 18, 2009 at 04:10 AM

    I saw this is an old post but wanted to respond. I have a gf who is totally out and comfortable with herself. I am in the closet to most but my very close friends. I don't feel comfortable and get the feeling that we get negative vibes from people when we are out together. My gf wants to hold my hand in public and I don't. I do sometimes cause I don't want to hurt her feelings.
    She takes it very personally but its not. I would like to blend in and live life without fear of being shamed. I don't want to ever tell my family. My mom is a big homophobe. I think if I had thought about all this I might never have decided to pursue women and just dated men instead. I know I shouldn't feel badly about myself but its just the way I was raised to think. And with the holidays coming I am worried cause last year my gf had to stay at my house while I was visiting my family. I want to just work all the holidays so I don't have to stress about it.

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  • View author's info Posted on Sep 12, 2009 at 12:11 PM

    i know..i dont dare either...
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 17, 2008 at 08:05 AM

    Hi Viola,

    For me it the same but a bit different. I'm a pre-opt MTF trans girl. I've known for as long as I can remember that I wanted to be a girl.

    At 16 I came out to my family and they disowned me saying I was going to hell. For the next year we had many fights and my life was so miserable that I ran away when I was 17. I started living as Suzie 6 months later.

    I have spoken to my parents twice in the last year and a half and they still want to "cure" me.

    I met a very dear friend and her family has "adopted" me as their other daughter and now I have a family for support and comfort.
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 19, 2008 at 10:34 AM

    I haven't told my family neither and like some, I don't think I ever will. My family is so very close and I don't want to ruin it for them. The thing is that they will always believe that a man should be with a woman and that is it. Besides if I did tell them I would be disowned. I would rather they believe I will be happy with some man. It is so difficult to explain but it has worked for me. My family and myself are just fine. I know this is not much help but it has worked for me for so very long. You just really need to have the will power to go on like this. I don't have it to tell my family who I really am, so kudos to those that have already said it to them.
  • View author's info Posted on May 17, 2008 at 01:16 PM

    hello... i recently opened up myself to my mom at the start of the new year... so i gues you have to start it from there... blood is really thick that your family could accept you more than you'll ever know... what else can they do?... as long as your happy and you're being true to yourself then why not... and besides i think you have to really decide what your preference is...
    it would be more satisfying i guess...don't wait for the time that it's gonna be too late for you to realize things... otherwise you'll just be dillemma all the time!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 26, 2008 at 05:52 PM

    i haven't told my parents yet and i'm not sure i want to. if i need to, please tell me how!!??!!
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 15, 2008 at 03:27 AM

    Actualy I am a lesbian/bi. And I can't tell my family what I am coz I prefer to stay in the closet. So congratulation you're looking for it. You've some courage to face it.
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 14, 2008 at 02:40 AM

    You know - the answer to this question is varied a million times over! Its unique and different for everyone.

    For me -- I just told my mom, she told everyone else. As for bringing a partner home..I dont think they even realize.

    I know this does not help much -- but honesty worked for me.
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 10, 2008 at 04:21 PM

    i wouldn't tell my parents. and i haven't.
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