Is there any advice on how I can attract a female? Lesbian Questions Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Jun 03, 2010 at 05:11 AM

    Hi, my name is Sheena, I am 27 years old. I really like females, and would like to have a relationship with a femme female, but I don’t think that I am beautiful enough for a female to like me, I have been dating men, but I am not attracted to them as much as I am to women. Nobody really knows I like females, just a few people, but I would like to meet a female that I can get to know and she get to know me, and we maybe start a relationship, I had a relationship with a female a few years back, but it didn’t work, I think we rushed into to fast. I don’t go to clubs so I can’t meet women like that, and also I am kind of afraid to just go up to people and start talking, plus I don’t think people find me attractive, because no one really notices me. Is there any advice on how I can attract a female?
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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 25, 2013 at 11:57 PM

    Eye contact, never much used it myself but l have seen it work in bucketlaods. Also listen....

    Good luck:)
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 01, 2012 at 06:13 PM

    Just be yourself :)
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 20, 2012 at 09:48 PM

    I agree that confidence and outlook on life radiates inner beauty. Catch yourself when you say something negative about yourself then make yourself say 10 positive things about you out loud. it helps, it just takes time.If you live near a college, go to the LGBTQ office and ask about their women's group meetings and make sure you go. You will find women of all ages there. You don't even need to be a student to attend. Even if you don't want to date any of the women you will make connections and know where to go to find women. In the meetings you will find women with whom you can relate and connect. The first step is the hardest but take the leap! It is worth it!
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 18, 2010 at 01:44 AM

    hi sheena, we share the same sentiments, im 26 but ive never been to a reltionship, i'm femme and everyone thought im a girl but they don't that im interested on girls too, I got male suitors but im not interested with them, since its all women that is in my head.
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 17, 2010 at 07:38 AM

    Some females can be very devious and behave badly because they have a bad view of themselves. you cant help the other girl without putting yourself in harms way so my advice to you is to stay as far away from the whole situation as you can. you seem like a very inteligent and sweet person, dont let the bad change you.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 27, 2010 at 03:18 PM

    I just found out it is women I have always been looking for. A few years back I inadvertantly stumbled on it. However, while Do thank the girl who brought on tis revelation, the hell I went thru for three years was enuf to swear off any relationship. She cheated on me, anything I told her in confidence she told everyone. My deepest and darkest secreats were made in to bar jokes. Ultimately I had to get a restraining order. She tried to get me fired from my job, called my school and tried to get me removed. Now she after my best friend, trying to convince her I am evil. Funny thing is that she was the one who cheated on me and when I asked her who she wanted to be with she choose the other girl. But wanted to remain friends, I was open to that, till I found out how she had disrespected me. She is out for blood jus becoz I dont want to be friends. I wish I couls warn her new girl friend about the thing she has already started doing to her, but I cant. Men I know how to deal with wome like this I have no clue
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 21, 2010 at 03:43 AM

    It is rather amazing how many us are ready to date but cant seem to find each other. It is rather sad how many us remain in abusive relationships just because we are afraid of putting ourselves out there. While most of us are always looking for honesty, we really dont have the stomach honesty in others. May be if we just came out of our own preconceived notions we would find someone out there.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 19, 2010 at 12:26 PM

    i am going throgh the same just left a guy i hurt cause i cant get women out of my head ....i dont want to either i wonder my self am i not pretty enough.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 26, 2010 at 09:37 PM

    Hi Sheena, I think you and I have the same problem. Be confident and donot give up. You will find the one who come to you.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 22, 2010 at 04:29 AM

    You really just need to be yourself and if someone doesnt like you for who you are then the are not good enough for you.. BE YOURSELF.

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 19, 2010 at 09:01 AM

    "Our first love and last love is self love" until you realize that
    you will not be able to find and love anyone else male or female.
    Good luck in your journey of finding and loving yourself.....
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 06, 2010 at 12:28 PM

    Confidence, sweetie! You can only attract what is within you. If you are carrying a negative self imagine, then, you will attract the same. I would begin doing the work on myself before I even THINK about moving forward in your journey. You are to think of yourself as the most beautiful woman in the world, and you are! There is no one on earth made just like you! You are unique! You are divine. Beat them in the head with it, girlie!
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 20, 2010 at 02:51 PM

    I concur with fafa about having more confidence in yourself. And if you don't think your attractive you can't possibly attract someone else. In my experience, women are more attracted to character and personality then men are so you can be attractive to someone, probably to a lot of women.
  • View author's info Posted on Jun 16, 2010 at 01:37 PM

    hey sheena, you need to be a little more confident within yourself, and know that everyone is beautiful is somebody's eyes somewhere.
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