I've met women who just made my toes tingle when I was around them. I've wanted to touch them, tell them how attracted I am. But I'm always so afraid they are completely straight and will be offended by my attraction to them. How do you start? How do you know if they want you too? Maybe I missed a perfect relationship because I didn't know how!

THE FACT THAAT YOUR NOT OUT MAY BE YOUR WHOLE ISSUE. NOT SAYING JUS GO AROUND BLURTING THINGS OUT LIKE HEY IM A LESBIAN BUT MAYBE IF SHE KNEW SHE WOULD KNOW HOW TO CARRY IT WITH YOU I HOPE UR GETTIN MY DRIFT! SMILLE* ANY WAY I WAS IN THIS SAME STINK AND ONE DAY I WAS JUS LIKE EFF IT  AND ASKED HER HOW YOU  FEEL IF A WOMAN HAD A CRUSH ON YOU ! SHE SAID THAT IT WOULD BE EXCITING BECAUSE SHE LOVES A WOMAN TOUCH HOW FREAKIN LUCKY WAS I I HAD NO IDEA SHE WAS INTO WOMEN BUT I HAD TO HAVE HER AND I GOT HER EVEN THOUGH SHE TURNED OUT TO BE A NUTT CASE MY POINT IS YOU NEVER KNOW UNTIL U ASK! GOOD LUCK

I would look for an opportunity to let her know you're a lesbian. Talk about going to Pride, or bumping into your ex or something that lets her know. If she's a Lez and likes you she'll respond.

Yeah I feel your pain, over here if I flirt and it turns out to be a straight girl I'd more often than not get in a huge mess, homophobes are a little too common around here I'm afraid. Which makes me always scared to approach and wait to be approached instead, which is rare because I'm butch and supposed to be the one doing the first step -w-'

worst case? you get embarrassed. things are awkward.

but in order for electricity to flow, it needs 2 poles.
chances are, you aren't alone in this feeling.

touch her arm
stand to close
speak softly
...
too bold?
tell really corny jokes.
if she laughs at lame jokes or playfully makes fun of you,....
you'll know real quick

babe,i think all you need is abit of liquid courage..... that always does the trick

I hate it when i get this real attraction, vibe off a woman, then it turns out shes not into women at all

I'm not out either but intimate convo and getting to know eases the path to expressing your interest. Subtle flirting helps too.

Thanks, I'll start working a little more towards flirting and talking. I'm always so nervous when I feel that attraction. I have been looking for someone special for a while but I'm not out and I don't want to be out really. I like being discreet and behind closed doors. Whew! I think I may have met one recently because she is always flirting with me when I see her at work. Maybe I'll take time to flirt back ;)